Getting a job in a field you have been trained is a dream coming true...I am not an exception. I have been studying Civil engineering for all the 4 years and at the end I would love to be a part of a civil company. That's why I appeared for the Larsen &Tubro's test during our campus placement even after getting a software job. I was short listed for the interview and appeared for the interview. Among the 20 short listed students there were only 4 girls. The interviewer seemed to be interested in giving a long interview........about 30 to 45 minutes for each candidate. I was the first girl candidate.. The interview was a cool one for me...full of technical stuff... I enjoyed it really because I answered all the questions for the first time in my life. It went really cool so that I started explaining using figures and all...I said about my interests and my paper presentations also. The interview panel also reciprocated in the same dimension...It took about 30 to 40 minutes...But at the end the interviewer said "madam, you have performed well. But why do you want to join a technical company...It is the software job that suits you more. You don't need to get tired in the sun; you can work in air conditioning." Hearing this I corrected them and explained my attitude about a job...But the interview panel made their point very clear. "Woman cannot go to heights during work. Moreover you will be having a married life with children and all. You cannot concentrate on your work. You won't feel good at that time if you are with a tech job. Girls will not be having much physical strength and all to do the job."
At that point of time I realized that our society is still conservative. It is still holding up its same old mentality towards women. We have changed in every manner, our life styles, dress codes, customs and all have changed except this. The same society will never blame people for not taking care of their old parents; it will just encourage more and more old age homes...The society finds no harm in the growing pub culture. But women should never be equal to men. I know many of us won’t agree to these statements. But believe me it is true. I know there is no point in protesting...but still I cannot stand such stupid beliefs. If I can study civil engineering for 4 years and can earn a degree then what is the point in saying "no technical job for women". Oh, the interviewer had made it clear that there is no discrimination towards women. If it had been due to my technical in capability then, I would have taken it light. But the most ridiculous fact is women themselves don't feel to protest against such discrimination. The other 3 who appeared for the interview didn't feel any discomfort towards their approach..If the company doesn't want women, what do we do.??!!! A typical approach !!!
I took a stubborn decision as not to appear for any more tech jobs. Thanks to the India's largest engineering and construction company. It is very difficult to change the view point of people surrounding you. It doesn't mean that you should change to match others. The mindset is that which needs to be changed....
Tuesday, October 30, 2007
Monday, October 1, 2007
Ore kadal.....!!!
Cinema is a very powerful medium.It can convey any message to the audience very effectively.I always feel like being moved like anything after watching good movies.I have been able to make out a message from every film I see,let it be a commercial or an art film or anything.
This time the film reviews and critics made me think of a refuge.!! I went out to see the film "Ore kadal",the recent one from Malayalam director ShyamaPrasad.The review of the film made by the director and some others made me go for the movie. Moreover when I heard that it was based on a Bengali novel by Sunil Gangopadhyay,I was very anxious as to how he will manage to portray the characters and all...I had watched the film "Akale" which was a good one by the same director.
Ore kadal was just an average film with no stunts and strong "masalas", not an unparagoned one as said in reviews. The theme of the film is not the reason for the film's failure. It's definitely not due to the so called hypocrisy of our society to accept the "rationalistic " extramarital relationship" .This is the reason said by the director..It is not an "indigestible meal"..believe me .This film is just an ordinary one made for the actors,but not for the film.The theme is not misleading or anything because it can be so only if it creates an impact in mind!!!.We can't complain about the characters of the story because the given data is not the story line but the film. The only good element is the music of the film. About the music, the song "pranaya sandhya" is a nice one and Bombay Jayasree has rendered it beautifully.Moreover the songs are all brilliantly composed of subhapanthuvarali ragam. The acting of the national award winners is just average. In my opinion acting is not just expressing your emotions,it is how you can create a mood with consistent mild acting. I am not criticizing the Malayalam actors.I am sure anybody can feel the difference by watching Shabana Azmi or Morgan Freeman or Alpaccino or others.I had the oppurtunity to watch classic films like Crash, The Shaw Shank redemption, Casablanca, The God Father and all. I happened to see a parallel cinema, Morning Raga which has a beautiful element of great performance by Shabana Azmi even though the film is not a classic.The film Ore kadal has got many flaws...The veteran actor Mammootty has done great injustice to the character...he failed to create an intellect's image for the character, and impersonated a drunkard. He just managed to look himself unfit for the role..!! Naren has done a good job but unfortunately he is not given much importance. He gives a charm for the character of a typical middle class man. Moreover a good film never ends with out an ending....If the viewers are to surmise the ending of the film ,then what is the role of director or the screenplay writer? The film as a whole fails to create any impact and it turned out to be a rodomontade by the director and nothing more...
I am not writing a review, but trying to express my protest or a vociferation as to say..!! Many good, sensible films are being crafted beautifully in other languages.I wonder why malayalam films are still standing off from this regeneration ? There is literally a regeneration for the film industries of many regional languages except malayalam. This is the main reason why audience prefer other language films to our masala films. Here, we are concerned only about the star value of actors not about the storyline or the beauty of the film.That is why films are born for actors and for actors alone..!! One more film to the list of futile efforts...Ore Kadal..!!!
This time the film reviews and critics made me think of a refuge.!! I went out to see the film "Ore kadal",the recent one from Malayalam director ShyamaPrasad.The review of the film made by the director and some others made me go for the movie. Moreover when I heard that it was based on a Bengali novel by Sunil Gangopadhyay,I was very anxious as to how he will manage to portray the characters and all...I had watched the film "Akale" which was a good one by the same director.
Ore kadal was just an average film with no stunts and strong "masalas", not an unparagoned one as said in reviews. The theme of the film is not the reason for the film's failure. It's definitely not due to the so called hypocrisy of our society to accept the "rationalistic " extramarital relationship" .This is the reason said by the director..It is not an "indigestible meal"..believe me .This film is just an ordinary one made for the actors,but not for the film.The theme is not misleading or anything because it can be so only if it creates an impact in mind!!!.We can't complain about the characters of the story because the given data is not the story line but the film. The only good element is the music of the film. About the music, the song "pranaya sandhya" is a nice one and Bombay Jayasree has rendered it beautifully.Moreover the songs are all brilliantly composed of subhapanthuvarali ragam. The acting of the national award winners is just average. In my opinion acting is not just expressing your emotions,it is how you can create a mood with consistent mild acting. I am not criticizing the Malayalam actors.I am sure anybody can feel the difference by watching Shabana Azmi or Morgan Freeman or Alpaccino or others.I had the oppurtunity to watch classic films like Crash, The Shaw Shank redemption, Casablanca, The God Father and all. I happened to see a parallel cinema, Morning Raga which has a beautiful element of great performance by Shabana Azmi even though the film is not a classic.The film Ore kadal has got many flaws...The veteran actor Mammootty has done great injustice to the character...he failed to create an intellect's image for the character, and impersonated a drunkard. He just managed to look himself unfit for the role..!! Naren has done a good job but unfortunately he is not given much importance. He gives a charm for the character of a typical middle class man. Moreover a good film never ends with out an ending....If the viewers are to surmise the ending of the film ,then what is the role of director or the screenplay writer? The film as a whole fails to create any impact and it turned out to be a rodomontade by the director and nothing more...
I am not writing a review, but trying to express my protest or a vociferation as to say..!! Many good, sensible films are being crafted beautifully in other languages.I wonder why malayalam films are still standing off from this regeneration ? There is literally a regeneration for the film industries of many regional languages except malayalam. This is the main reason why audience prefer other language films to our masala films. Here, we are concerned only about the star value of actors not about the storyline or the beauty of the film.That is why films are born for actors and for actors alone..!! One more film to the list of futile efforts...Ore Kadal..!!!
Saturday, September 8, 2007
Musical show..?ohh no..reality show..!!
Music is a great experience for me ever since I started learning it. It can create any mood in mind and can do wonders. Music in life is like a friend forever. It is a relief for me at times of hardships.The most important element in music is the feel we give;otherwise it is just a group of words. Music shows,contests and all are always on demand.The musical reality shows are the new craze in television. They aim at expiscating a good singer and give them a flat to live in..!!But in these shows participant has to do many things other than singing. Many of them demand the participants to do a 100m race or dance while singing....and the talented participants manage to do what ever they are told....If you sing very well and go slow in your movements your marks will get reduced..and of course this is a music competition!!.This is the general idea of a musical reality show.The most popular among them is idea star singer. The major attraction is the ostensibly good judgment.
You may be wondering what made me think about a refuge now..I am very disturbed after listening to such a show.It was a terrific experience and I am forced to write this. Yesterday, a participant sang a famous Hindi melody song..."Tanhayee", beautifully composed by Shankar-Eshan-Loy and sung by Sonu Nigam....It is one among the many i love to hear...But I can't imagine myself listening to a "semi-pop" Tanhayee.....it was horrible to hear .My mind was crying out for the judges' comments and thought they would criticize him harshly..but they appreciated him...I was taken aback when one of the judges said he was greatly moved and wanted to perform a jugalbandhi or so..!!!! Now I recollect that it was not a new experience for me...I have heard many beautiful songs like "Madhura meenakshi"..(composed by Dakshina moorthy swamikal),"Raakkili thann"..(composed by M.Jayachandran)..and many others being performed desperately and they were all appreciated by the judges. The devotional song Madhura meenakshi was sung as if it was a fast number without any devotion, even to the person who might have persuaded the participant to sing that one..hehe!! Similar was the case with other one also. I watch this programme only once in a week or so ...How can they do justice to the music world or to the composers.I have learned music for about 12 years..and I personally do feel that this will only lead to a bad culture in music.
Even as we spend time for talent hunt and all,we still don't know what is pure music in sense. Real music demands any dance or movements along with it..?? Great musicians dance along with music..??If it is the film music that matters,did MohdRafi,Lata Mangeshkar,Mukesh,Yesudas,Chitra and all dance in the stage..?? These shows are not aiming at good singers but at good performers. In that case the name should be Idea Star performer....and then it will be a very nice idea to stay tuned at 8.30pm ...!!!I am not sure whether I was able to express my feelings effectively..But if you can do anything to change this scenario..please do it.
Oh...again I breathe a sigh of relief....!!
You may be wondering what made me think about a refuge now..I am very disturbed after listening to such a show.It was a terrific experience and I am forced to write this. Yesterday, a participant sang a famous Hindi melody song..."Tanhayee", beautifully composed by Shankar-Eshan-Loy and sung by Sonu Nigam....It is one among the many i love to hear...But I can't imagine myself listening to a "semi-pop" Tanhayee.....it was horrible to hear .My mind was crying out for the judges' comments and thought they would criticize him harshly..but they appreciated him...I was taken aback when one of the judges said he was greatly moved and wanted to perform a jugalbandhi or so..!!!! Now I recollect that it was not a new experience for me...I have heard many beautiful songs like "Madhura meenakshi"..(composed by Dakshina moorthy swamikal),"Raakkili thann"..(composed by M.Jayachandran)..and many others being performed desperately and they were all appreciated by the judges. The devotional song Madhura meenakshi was sung as if it was a fast number without any devotion, even to the person who might have persuaded the participant to sing that one..hehe!! Similar was the case with other one also. I watch this programme only once in a week or so ...How can they do justice to the music world or to the composers.I have learned music for about 12 years..and I personally do feel that this will only lead to a bad culture in music.
Even as we spend time for talent hunt and all,we still don't know what is pure music in sense. Real music demands any dance or movements along with it..?? Great musicians dance along with music..??If it is the film music that matters,did MohdRafi,Lata Mangeshkar,Mukesh,Yesudas,Chitra and all dance in the stage..?? These shows are not aiming at good singers but at good performers. In that case the name should be Idea Star performer....and then it will be a very nice idea to stay tuned at 8.30pm ...!!!I am not sure whether I was able to express my feelings effectively..But if you can do anything to change this scenario..please do it.
Oh...again I breathe a sigh of relief....!!
Monday, September 3, 2007
What has life taught me..?
This is not a overview of my life. I am thinking it in a different way...not sure whether my attempt will be successful.Childhood days were not interesting for me because I prepared a plan about those days only after I became an adult..by then childhood days were gone!!So I am starting off from college days..
College life is a very adventurous and interesting one. During college days,we learn many things except what we are taught in class!!We will learn how to sleep in class and even while writing notes,how to bunk classes,how to write 3 or 4 assignments at a time ,how to study 3 modules in 3 night outs ...The most exciting part one will have in the four year UG course will be the tours or better named as IVs or study tours!.They will be full of enjoyment.You can enjoy the journey,as well as, spend a lot of good memorable days with your "loving" friends.You won't even know how fast the days would go...
I believe this will be the case with most of my batch mates, except for me. I may not be a fun loving person,as others may say..But the truth is I am.I am sure I am second to none in the way I enjoy my life and my experiences. For me life is a passion and nothing else. I love to live in this world. This was not the case with me a year ago. But as comrade CP(He is Kiran CP,my fiance) says, I too have a space in this world to live in . I am the all in all in my world. I enjoy my life from this world of mine,like the one mentioned in the film "parzania". I haven't yet found any of my friends sharing such a view except comrade CP.The influence CP made in my life is still a wonder for me. He was the person who taught me how to take things lightly. I started observing life philosophically. Just in one year I could make my life changing like anything, oh ,let me make it clear,I was forced to do so. That's why I say I am special in my own way.It can be my way of self protection(as to say protecting my identity in this world),just opposite to the self protection way of Chameleon...that creature tries to make itself look same as the surroundings and i am trying to make myself distinct from others. Sounds like a nice hypothesis...?!!
I have changed a lot since the last onam. It may be due to the deadly loneliness I experienced one year ago from my so-called friends. Oh yes,friends had their own reasons...definitely!
I am sure, my experiences alone are sufficient for one to feel as life is miserable. Oh, I too had that feeling..hehe. Anyhow I was able to get through that period..yes for sure..because I am still alive..!!! But I would say, such loneliness will help you to strive hard,not for your success, but for your survival.It came as a breath of fresh air and now I don't believe in friendship at all.
I am sure I have a reason why I am keeping aloof from all the activities. I have a definite answer..I just need to be different ...want to be what I am...and what I say. I don't need to get along with my friends anymore. In my life I seldom find people giving importance to relationships.Many among us are driven off by petty ego and not by interests and sincerity. I used to make mine similar to the others' voice in a group. But now I realize that there is no point in it.The point is whether I am successful in making it different from others.
Sharing all these with someone who will ever happen to see my blog I breathe a sigh of relief as to say.Life is an experience. Each and every moment can be seen as a new lease on life.We need to make the best of it,that's all.This is my new hypothesis....the best one I ever made
College life is a very adventurous and interesting one. During college days,we learn many things except what we are taught in class!!We will learn how to sleep in class and even while writing notes,how to bunk classes,how to write 3 or 4 assignments at a time ,how to study 3 modules in 3 night outs ...The most exciting part one will have in the four year UG course will be the tours or better named as IVs or study tours!.They will be full of enjoyment.You can enjoy the journey,as well as, spend a lot of good memorable days with your "loving" friends.You won't even know how fast the days would go...
I believe this will be the case with most of my batch mates, except for me. I may not be a fun loving person,as others may say..But the truth is I am.I am sure I am second to none in the way I enjoy my life and my experiences. For me life is a passion and nothing else. I love to live in this world. This was not the case with me a year ago. But as comrade CP(He is Kiran CP,my fiance) says, I too have a space in this world to live in . I am the all in all in my world. I enjoy my life from this world of mine,like the one mentioned in the film "parzania". I haven't yet found any of my friends sharing such a view except comrade CP.The influence CP made in my life is still a wonder for me. He was the person who taught me how to take things lightly. I started observing life philosophically. Just in one year I could make my life changing like anything, oh ,let me make it clear,I was forced to do so. That's why I say I am special in my own way.It can be my way of self protection(as to say protecting my identity in this world),just opposite to the self protection way of Chameleon...that creature tries to make itself look same as the surroundings and i am trying to make myself distinct from others. Sounds like a nice hypothesis...?!!
I have changed a lot since the last onam. It may be due to the deadly loneliness I experienced one year ago from my so-called friends. Oh yes,friends had their own reasons...definitely!
I am sure, my experiences alone are sufficient for one to feel as life is miserable. Oh, I too had that feeling..hehe. Anyhow I was able to get through that period..yes for sure..because I am still alive..!!! But I would say, such loneliness will help you to strive hard,not for your success, but for your survival.It came as a breath of fresh air and now I don't believe in friendship at all.
I am sure I have a reason why I am keeping aloof from all the activities. I have a definite answer..I just need to be different ...want to be what I am...and what I say. I don't need to get along with my friends anymore. In my life I seldom find people giving importance to relationships.Many among us are driven off by petty ego and not by interests and sincerity. I used to make mine similar to the others' voice in a group. But now I realize that there is no point in it.The point is whether I am successful in making it different from others.
Sharing all these with someone who will ever happen to see my blog I breathe a sigh of relief as to say.Life is an experience. Each and every moment can be seen as a new lease on life.We need to make the best of it,that's all.This is my new hypothesis....the best one I ever made
Saturday, September 1, 2007
tkp's world..??
I am Parvathy, born and brought up at a nice place called Trivandrum in Kerala. I would love to call myself "tkp". I am continuing my studies, which I have been doing, for the past 15 years!!. I enjoy my life in a way I love to,which others may feel as a weird idea. I am a kind of person who always want to swim against the stream,and this may be the reason why I have only a few friends in my life. One among them is comrade Kiran CP, who is my fiance. Kiran was my senior in CET, a good comrade and, a good reader unlike me. He was the one who taught me to take life as it comes.This is all about myself...My profile seems to give a better idea about me.
I am new to this world of blogging.I am not clear whether this has to be my style of presentation.As I am not a voracious reader,I am not exposed to great writing styles.I feel ashamed to say so. I didn't develop a habit of reading books during my school days and now I feel sorry for it. I feel it difficult to make myself believe that I can start it even now.This is the only thing in my life for which I repent.As an individual, I could have developed a lot more if I had had this habit. But my better half is better than me..!!!
So,I don't believe I have a different style of writing.It may be a cliched one.I want to share my ideas and thoughts with others,and to express mine when I feel I have no other refuge..! Quite often I feel so...and you can expect my blog to be updated quite often..!!
I welcome you to this world of mine..."tkp's world"
I am new to this world of blogging.I am not clear whether this has to be my style of presentation.As I am not a voracious reader,I am not exposed to great writing styles.I feel ashamed to say so. I didn't develop a habit of reading books during my school days and now I feel sorry for it. I feel it difficult to make myself believe that I can start it even now.This is the only thing in my life for which I repent.As an individual, I could have developed a lot more if I had had this habit. But my better half is better than me..!!!
So,I don't believe I have a different style of writing.It may be a cliched one.I want to share my ideas and thoughts with others,and to express mine when I feel I have no other refuge..! Quite often I feel so...and you can expect my blog to be updated quite often..!!
I welcome you to this world of mine..."tkp's world"
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